愛內沒有怨尤

Love is what you are already. Love doesn't seek anything. It's already complete. It doesn't want. It doesn't need. Has no "shoulds". It already has everything that it wants. It already is everything it wants, just the way it wants it.

So when I heard people said that they love someone and want to be loved in return, I know they are not talking about love. They are talking about something else. Sometimes you may seem to trade love for the stressful thought appearing in the moment. It is a little trip out into illusion. Seeking love is how you lose the awareness of love. But you can only lose the awareness of it, not the state. That's not an option. Because love is what we all are. That's immovable.

When you investigate your stressful thinking, and your mind becomes clear. Love pours into your life. And there is nothing you can do about it. Love joins everything, without condition. It doesn't avoid the nightmare. It looks forward to it, and then inquires. There is no way to join, except to get free of your belief that you want something from your partner. That's true joining. It's like "Bingo! You just won the lottery."

If I want something from the partner, I simply ask. If he says no and I have a problem with that, I need to take a look at my thinking. Because I already have everything. We all do. That's how I can sit here so comfortably. I don't want anything from you that you don't want to give. I don't even want your freedom if you don't. I don't even want your peace.

Love wouldn't deny a breath. It wouldn't deny a grain of sand, or a speck of dust. It is totally in love with itself, and it delights and acknowledging itself through it's own presence, in every way without limit. It embraces all. Everything from the murderer and the rapist, to the saint, to the dog and cat, tree, and sky. Love is so vast within itself that will burn you up. It's so vast that there is nothing you can do with it. All you can do is be it.

Thinking you need someone's love is very stressful. When you don't have it, you suffer. And when you do have it, you want more of it. Or you're afraid that you lose it. When you believe your stressful thoughts, you suffer. But when you question them, you don't suffer. You realize that you don't need the love of anyone in particular because you can feel love all the time, with or without another person. That is the awareness of love itself. You can't lose love itself. You can only lose the awareness of it.

When we question our stressful thoughts about love, we can begin to find true fulfillment. It doesn't take two people to have happy marriage. It only takes one. Seeking approval is one of the main ways that people lose the awareness of it. Seeking is always stressful. It puts your happiness in other people's hands.

─ 《Your Inner Awakening》Byron Katie